Mississippi Divorce Reform
Finding the courage to leave my abusive marriage was only the beginning. Getting legally free meant proving in court that I had grounds for a divorce.
I’m asking Mississippi lawmakers to allow one person to end a marriage on the ground of irreconcilable differences, even when their spouse refuses to agree. Courts would still decide disputes over custody, support, and property. But the ability to leave the marriage should not be something one spouse can withhold.
Help me change the law for the people who are still trying to get out.
Leaving a Marriage Shouldn’t Require Your Spouse’s Permission
Understanding Mississippi’s Divorce Laws
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Yes. In Mississippi, one spouse cannot obtain an irreconcilable-differences divorce over the other spouse’s continuing objection. Even when spouses ask the court to decide unresolved custody or property issues, the law requires written consent signed by both parties.
That does not mean a spouse can prevent every possible divorce. The person seeking to leave can pursue another legally recognized ground, but must prove that ground in court. Wanting to end the marriage is not, by itself, enough.
This consent requirement is what I’m working to change.
Source link: Mississippi Code § 93-5-2, subsections (3) and (5).
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Without agreement to an irreconcilable-differences divorce, the person seeking a divorce must prove another ground recognized by Mississippi law. The statute lists twelve grounds, including adultery, habitual drunkenness, certain forms of desertion, and habitual cruel and inhuman treatment, including spousal domestic abuse. Each has specific legal requirements.
Domestic abuse does not have to involve physical violence. The statute also recognizes certain patterns of threats, intimidation, emotional or verbal abuse, forced isolation, sexual abuse, and stalking. However, the conduct must meet the legal standard; incompatibility or a lack of affection alone is not enough.
Importantly, the statute allows spousal domestic abuse to be established through the reliable testimony of one credible witness, who may be the person experiencing it. It does not always require another eyewitness or a police report.
Source link: Mississippi Code § 93-5-1.
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No. Mississippi does not provide an automatic right to divorce simply because spouses have lived apart for a certain amount of time. Without agreement to an irreconcilable-differences divorce, a person must still prove another legally recognized ground.
The law does include “willful, continued and obstinate desertion” for one year, but desertion has specific legal requirements. It is not the same as spouses living separately, and a year of separation does not automatically establish it.
A marriage can be over in everyday life while the spouses remain legally married.
Source: Mississippi Code § 93-5-1 and § 93-5-2.
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Agreeing to a divorce does not mean spouses must agree on every financial or parenting issue. Under Mississippi’s irreconcilable-differences law, they can resolve those matters by agreement or give written consent for the court to decide specified disputes.
That consent must be signed by both spouses. The law also requires the child custody, child maintenance, and property issues raised in the pleadings to be resolved before an irreconcilable-differences divorce is granted.
My reform goal is to allow someone to end a marriage without the other spouse’s permission while preserving the court’s authority to resolve custody, support, and property disputes. Neither spouse should have to surrender financial or parenting rights to obtain agreement to a divorce.
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I’m asking Mississippi lawmakers to allow a divorce on the ground of irreconcilable differences when one spouse wants to end the marriage, even if the other spouse objects. Someone should not have to prove abuse, adultery, or another statutory ground simply to leave a marriage.
Courts would still resolve disputes over custody, support, and property. Ending the marriage would not mean giving up those rights or allowing either spouse to avoid their responsibilities.
This is the reform my petition calls for. The petition itself does not change the law; that requires legislative action. My goal is to build the public support and partnerships needed to make that happen.
Read and Sign my petition.
Why I’m Fighting for Change
I left my abusive marriage in 2023. I wasn’t legally divorced until 2026. Because my former husband refused to agree to an irreconcilable-differences divorce, leaving meant proving in court that what had happened to me was enough under Mississippi law.
The judge ultimately granted my divorce on the ground of habitual cruel and inhuman treatment. She found my testimony about domestic violence credible and concluded that I had no choice but to leave. I had a judge who listened, weighed the evidence, and recognized the abuse. Still, getting free required a trial.
I could pay attorneys, gather evidence, and keep fighting. Before my books and social media career, I was a nurse making about $27 an hour. I think about the women earning that now, raising children, paying bills, and trying to figure out how they could possibly afford to prove they deserve to leave.
I’m fighting for true no-fault divorce in Mississippi because having the resources to get out should not make me an exception. One spouse should not be able to use the marriage itself as leverage over the other.
I’m sharing my story to bring people into this fight: lawmakers who can change the statute, advocates who understand what families are facing, and everyone willing to sign, speak up, and help build public support. I got my divorce. Now I want to help change what it takes for the next person to get theirs.